My Approach

A good word to describe my work as a psychotherapist is that it is holistic.  Holism comes from philosophy and means in short, everything is connected.  In psychotherapy, difficulties that cause suffering are connected to a context. Sometimes the context is very hard to see on our own.  This may sound strange especially if distress seems to be unrelated to anything or if it appears to happen out of the blue. Part of the work in therapy is to gain clarity about our individual contexts, that is, our lives, and to see how things are connected.  Seeing connections tends help us feel better in many ways.

Talking Helps

We know intuitively that talking helps us. Yet, sometimes opportunities to speak personally occur infrequently or even rarely.  This is not to say we don’t talk. We may find plenty to talk about at work with colleagues and at home with family and friends, yet we may have little experience of expressing ourselves and speaking personally.  This is a kind of deprivation that can make our difficulties hard to think about and challenging to solve. The talking we do in therapy places us at the center of the conversation so that we can get the help we need to difficulty as we see it.

When Things Get Under Your Skin

Removing a wood chip or splinter from under our skin is achieved with a pair of tweezers. Yet splinters aren’t the only things that can get under our skin. Unpleasant experiences, feelings, and thoughts can get lodged under our skin too. In this case expressing our feelings and talking about our distressing situation helps bring things to the surface.  Talking, or processing as it is sometimes called, helps us access and clarify the invisible things, so we have control over the splinters we cannot see. 

Revising For The Purpose Of Change

Revisions are something that therapy, and analytic therapy in particular, aims to do. Most of us realize that our minds are thinking all sorts of things all the time and that a large amount of our thinking happens outside of awareness. Even when we are not conscious of an idea it can exercise much influence by affecting our emotions and actions.  Most of our unconscious thinking is going on in a helpful and beneficial way. We would be lost without our unconscious mind ticking away like a silent support. As long as we are balanced we can deal with any negative experiences in a way that allows us to carry on our day.  It can become more difficult if something happens to disrupt or disbalance in a way that opens the door and allows distress come to the surface. This could be a thought, an experience or an event. When you find this sort of pattern coming up over and over then talking about it with a therapist can help you discern the underlying source and meaning.

Solving your underlying issues on your own can be extremely difficult because you are attached to them; they make it hard to be objective. I am here referring to about those things that go untouched by your attempts to alter them. Those issues that are hard to touch suggest that there are underlying forces working against your conscious efforts. Part of what makes these sort of forces so strong is that a.) they are complex and multifaceted and b.) the power of your mixed feelings. Therapy provides you with another set of eyes to help shed light on, and work through, the key issues enough so you are able to solve any future issues independently.

Next Steps

To discuss your situation and interest in psychotherapy with me, please send me a message by email or phone. My confidential voicemail is available 24/7. My number is 415-820-3930.